Thriving (not just surviving) while supporting sleep day and night.

Can we talk about this, together? LIVE NEXT WEEK ON ZOOM. For free. A community connection call. Mutual aid, my friends. Come join!

I had a call with a client yesterday that echoed a sentiment I hear often: "how do you actually, literally, function during the day without sleep training, though?!" the desperate-for-answers-dad said to me through the airwaves.

I paused to check my privilege. I've been cosleeping and bedsharing, nursing on demand day and night for five years straight. And I've done it largely through the support of my partner, but not exclusively through his support.

We are parenting in broken systems. Systems with massive structural inequities. That must be acknowledged.

But we must also acknowledge the reality of our babies’ biology and our own. What if we could enhance our maternal brains through nighttime nurture? What if we could reinforce our own wellness by focusing on our own sleep hygiene and circadian rhythm instead of pulling the escape hatch and resorting to “training” our babies?

We can. And I want to remind you how.

Let me show you how you can deliberately structure your time, energy, and attention in ways that are supportive of your mental, physical, and emotional well-being instead of extractive.

Let me show you exactly what adaptogens I take, exactly how I care for my hormones and health, and exactly how I run a business while homeschooling two kids and nurturing day and night.

I’m not special or unique — I’m just deliberate.

After I gave my client an overview of the way I work with this season of life, I also reminded him that the very limited objective data we have on sleep training (via actigraphy) has shown time and time again that sleep trained babies DON'T wake less than their non-sleep-trained counterparts.

Sleep training is sold as a panacea for exhausted, desperate parents when in reality, it's an outdated behaviorist "tactic" that isn't based on developmental science and neuroscience. It introduces risk to the developing brain. I’ve seen it fracture families. I’ve watched sleep training silence intuition time and time again, distancing mothers from their inner wisdom.

So what do we do instead? How DO we function during the day and parent at night?

Let's talk about it together. LIVE.

Join me next Tuesday the 24th at 3pm Pacific for a conversation in community with other mothers, fathers, and caregivers just like you.

Let's share secrets together. Mutual aid, my friends. Mutual aid.

You can sign up right here (for free).

Hope to see you there!

Britt

P.S. If you missed yesterday's reel on this topic, go check out the comments! 300+ testimonials of mothers and fathers who do indeed nurture at night and thrive during the day.

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